The book discusses the overestimation of the role of willpower, the paradoxes of our thinking, the formation and abandonment of habits, as well as relational conflicts and their possible 'second-degree' solutions. Szendi, in addition to evolutionary thinking, now calls upon modern behavioral therapy perspectives, claiming that our actions are continuously driven by factors unknown and unknowable to us - hidden learning, genetically inherited traits, imperceptible stimuli, false memories, self-justifying interpretations, erroneous perceptions, etc. Thus, problems are created by humans themselves, through the interpretation of oneself, fate, and surroundings. According to the author, the essence of human problems lies in trying to interpret phenomena based on limited information. In such cases, we often attribute too much significance to causes, and the information obtained from human consciousness and memory is usually insufficient for explanations. However, Szendi Gábor points out in his book rich in practical advice: if we seek solutions rather than causes, we can handle our individual and social problems much more effectively.